A happy woman is a myth. If you ejaculate early during sex, she complains. But get this – if your ejaculation is delayed, she still complains! Lady, your man needs thirty minutes or more to reach orgasm, he should be the one who’s complaining.
Ejaculation is when semen is released from the penis on reaching orgasm. Delayed ejaculation or impaired ejaculation is a common medical condition where a man needs a prolonged period of sexual stimulation for ejaculating. Sometimes, ejaculation cannot be reached at all. While it does not pose any medical risk, delayed ejaculation results in stress and may strain relations with your partner. It can also cause feelings of inadequacy and self-esteem issues in the man.
Delayed ejaculation can create complications like –
- Anxiety and stress about having sex
- Decreased sexual pleasure
- Low libido
- Evading intimacy with partner
What Causes Delayed Ejaculation?
There are several causes of delayed ejaculation including physical, psychological, and health conditions. Here’s a list of the commonly known causes –
1. Ageing –
- The nerve endings in the penis are less sensitive as a man grows older.
- Your reflexes become slower, hence, it takes longer to reach orgasm.
- Your ability to maintain your erection goes down too (no pun intended), making it more difficult to ejaculate without a full erection.
2. Psychological Factors –
- Experts believe that more often than not, delayed ejaculation is a result of psychological issues. The man may have difficulties in performing the act out of guilt if he has had an overly strict religious upbringing and has been raised to think of sex as a religious taboo.
- Anxiety and depression extinguish the sexual drive and lead to delayed ejaculation.
- Stress in the relationship and lack of communication can make the condition worse.
- Detachment in the relationship and a terrific sex drive can also cause delayed ejaculation.
- Fear of causing pregnancy is also one of the most common factors causing this condition.
3. Medication –
- Some chemicals affect the nerve endings in the penis, thus, impacting ejaculation.
- Some antidepressants like fluoxetine, commonly known as Prozac, are known to cause delayed ejaculation.
- Medicines such as Propranolol, commonly known as Inderal, that are used for treating high blood pressure impact ejaculation
- Antipsychotics like Thioridazine, more commonly known as Mellaril, is also known to delay ejaculation
4. Masturbation –
You may have a hand (literally) in your delayed ejaculation condition. Here’s how –
- If you have adopted a masturbation technique that involves a certain level of pressure, speed and friction, you will only respond to that stimulation which no partner will be able to replicate.
- If your sexual realities with a partner are disappointing in comparison to the sexual fantasies during masturbation, it can lead to delayed ejaculation.
5. Physical & Health Conditions –
Health conditions, surgeries or trauma may result in delayed ejaculation. Some of the common causes are –
- Birth defects resulting in impaired ejaculation process
- Urinary or prostate infections
- Damage to the pelvic or spinal nerves
- Heart conditions that impact blood flow to the pelvic region
- Low thyroid levels
- Low testosterone levels
- Neuropathy or stroke
- Prostate surgeries that may result in nerve damage
How To Deal With Delayed Ejaculation?
Delayed ejaculation can be treated by treating the underlying cause of the condition. However, there is no instant cure to it. Read on to know more about dealing with delayed ejaculation –
1. Medication –
While there are several drugs that help a man maintain his penile erection, there are not many for making a man ejaculate. These medications have been used to alleviate delayed ejaculation, however, they haven’t been specifically approved for treating the condition –
2. Counselling –
Psychological counselling can help the man in the deal with and be treating his anxiety, depression and fears that foster delayed ejaculation. You can also go for sex therapy in identifying and addressing the underlying cause of the sexual dysfunction. You can go to this therapy alone or with your partner.
3. Communication –
Delayed ejaculation can result in a conflicting relationship with your partner, often arising out of misunderstandings. For instance, your partner may think that you aren’t attracted to them. Facilitate an open and honest conversation with them. Discuss your sexual fantasies. Understanding and supporting each other can help in resolving these issues.
If you or someone you know has faced this condition, share more tips in the comments section to overcome delayed ejaculation.